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Spanking therapy is a controversial and somewhat new theory that suggests that some young people and adults have an emotional need for physical discipline (spanking) on a regular basis. Such therapy serves as a punishment for misdeeds, as well as a reminder to focus on one's goals and responsibilities. All forms of spanking therapy are only effective when the person receiving the therapy understands and accepts that they require it. This is not a form of discipline to be used on young children; only a small percentage of older teenagers and adults require and will respond to spanking therapy.
Two types of spanking therapy
The two main forms of spanking therapy are cooperative discipline and traditional spanking therapy.
Cooperative discipline
Cooperative Discipline can be an effective tool only when the person in question - usually a teen or adult - agrees that it is necessary. In a cooperative environment, the spanker (one who spanks) and the spankee (one who is spanked) agree on the punishment before it is delivered. This can be done via a pre-determined list of spankable offensives, or through a pre-discipline discussion about the fair consequences of the misdeed being dealt with.
The benefits of cooperative discipline are:
- Less fighting over discipline and rules.
- Involves spankee in the decision-making process of his or her own discipline
- Immediate punishment and forgiveness
- A stronger bond between the spanker and spankee.
Spanking therapy
Spanking therapy are regular therapy sessions where spanking is used as a tool to reinforce positive behavior. Spanking therapy is only effective when the one receiving the therapy has expressed a need for it. This need is felt by a small percentage of people, and spanking therapy should not be used by those who have not expressed such a need.
Spanking therapy is usually given weekly, at a set date and time. This allows the therapy recipient to always be expecting another session, thus encouraging him or her to continue to focus on their positive behavior, even when not getting spanked.
A session normally begins with a verbal discussion where the spankee is expected to give a report of the week's behavior with a concentration on any events or behaviors that might require a change in the spanking session (harder or lighter session). The spanker is responsible for giving a clear directive as to what areas the subject is expected to continue to work on (for example: Finding a job, losing weight, stop swearing, etc.) before the spanking begins. The spanking may be given with the hand, or with an appropriate instrument such as a paddle.
Giving the spanking:
Have the spankee get to the state of undress you have agreed upon (usually bare-bottom, but may be underpants if nudity is an issue), and put him or her into the position for spanking (over the knee, bent over the bed, etc.). The calmly explain what he/she is being spanked for and what needs to be done to avoid it in the future.
Deliver the spanking with no games. Counting licks and verbal chants like "please sir may I have another" distract attention away from the spanking and reduces its effects. Ideally the spanking should be given in silence, allowing the smacking sound to be the only noise.. an audible reinforcement of the discipline. You should only speak to give necessary commands, such as adjusting the spankee's position if he or she has moved.
After the spanking, you should hug the spankee and thank him or her for accepting the discipline. Any misdeeds have now been forgiven, and a quick reminder of the week's goals should be given.
Cooperative only!
Spanking therapy is not effective when used on an unwilling subject. In addition, a spanking given without merit or consent is abusive in nature and should not occur.
Not a universal method
There are those who believe that all forms of corporal punishment are wrong, and some believe it is abuse to hit or spank any person for any reason. In some states and municipalities spanking is illegal. Other forms of discipline considered effective by many include:
It is important to remember that everyone is different, and do not respond the same to each type of punishment. You must consider the age, maturity level and effectiveness of the subject being disciplined.
Remember: The spanking therapy described in this article is 'not recommended for most people. It is only effective when other methods prove ineffective and the subject has expressed that they feel they need physical discipline as opposed to the more popular punishments.
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